I’m happy to report a success!

In my post dated March 14, I reported how my friend felt bad because he kept putting off doing things with friends because ‘there’s always tomorrow,’  and then, sadly, sometimes missed the opportunity.  One such opportunity was to take a dear friend to eat at a favorite restaurant one and-a-half hours from home.  And, guess what?  We did it!

The drive was beautiful, the company was fun and our friend Helen ate at her favorite Mexican restaurant in the state of Arizona!

Steve and I felt happy that we could spend time with our friend and make her day very memorable.  Helen, in turn, was so very thankful that we took time out of our day just for her…  to make her feel special.

That was worth it.

Susan, Helen and Steve at a favorite restaurant.

Susan, Helen and Steve at a favorite restaurant.

Even if Steve DID spill salsa all over our table!  That just made it more memorable!

My gentle suggestion:  Don’t let yourself become too busy to spend time with someone important.  It’s good for the soul!

 

Radio interview

I truly wish I had this in a complete MP3 version, but unfortunately, all I have is a script with little audio sound bytes within it.  Thought I would share:

RADIO INTERVIEW WITH JEFF SCOTT

A GILBERT WOMAN’S LETTER TO HER DYING FATHER HAS PROMPTED HER TO ENCOURAGE OTHERS TO DO THE SAME.  SUSAN GEER IS ASKING PEOPLE TO SHARE WITH HER THEIR “GOODBYE” LETTERS FOR AN UPCOMING BOOK…Sound Byte-107

GEER SAYS IT PROVED THERAPEUTIC FOR HER TO PUT HER FEELINGS ABOUT HER FATHER DOWN ON PAPER, AND THOUGH HE WAS ABLE TO READ IT BEFORE HE PASSED AWAY, GEER SAYS OTHERS HAVE FOUND CLOSURE BY WRITING GOODBYE LETTERS TO DECEASED LOVED ONES AS WELL.

PEOPLE CAN E-MAIL GEER THEIR GOODBYE LETTERS AT SUSAN@LASTGOODBYELETTERS.COM.   THEY CAN READ MORE ABOUT HER PROJECT AT HER WEBSITE, WWW.LASTGOODBYELETTERS.COM.

GEER SAYS SHE WROTE HER LETTER TO HER DYING FATHER ON THE EVE OF WHAT SHE ASSUMED WOULD BE THEIR LAST VISIT…Sound Byte-108

GEER HOPES SHARING THE GOODBYE LETTERS OTHERS HAVE WRITTEN IN HER UPCOMING BOOK WILL ENCOURAGE MORE PEOPLE TO PUT THEIR FEELINGS ON PAPER…Sound Byte-109

GEER SAYS A WOMAN WHO HEARD OF HER PROJECT WAS COMPELLED TO WRITE HER OWN GOODBYE LETTER TO A LOVED ONE…Sound Byte-110

GEER IS SURPRISED BY THE RESPONSE…Sound Byte-111

GEER SAYS THE LETTERS DON’T HAVE TO BE ALL-EMCOMPASSING…Sound Byte -112

SHE SAYS THE LETTERS DON’T HAVE TO BE FOR DECEASED OR DYING LOVED ONES, POINTING OUT THAT ONE PERSON SHARED A GOODBYE LETTER TO A SPOUSE IN THE MIDST OF A DIVORCE.  OTHERS HAVE WRITTEN THEIR GOODBYES TO THEIR DECEASED PETS.

Doug shares a letter to his dad as they make the decision to take him off life support.

This moving letter came to me recently.  It shows the love and pain that goes into the decision to take a loved one off life support.  I thought I’d share it with you:

Dad, I wanted to talk to you and tell you what’s going on. We are gonna pull the intubation tube out of you in a bit. You most likely won’t be able to breathe on your own after this.

 

I wanted to thank you for being a great dad and teaching me to be a man of science so that I can understand and deal with what’s been happening. You always told me you didn’t want to be hooked up to machines. So, to keep the promise I made to you in Colorado, I will not let them keep you in a vegetative state. You are probably gonna die today and I wanted to be the one that told you. I promise it wont hurt. I promise you will go painlessly. You will become stardust again. You will be pure energy and get to go see all those places you always dreamed about.

 

Photo by jimkster courtesy of everystockphoto.com

Photo by jimkster courtesy of everystockphoto.com

We will bump into each other again one day– random photons bouncing off each other headed to see a different part of the universe.

 

Don’t fight it when it happens. We will all be here guiding you to the next phase.

 

I’m gonna go now.  I love you; the rest of the family wants to speak with you. The nurses will start giving you medicine soon so you won’t feel anything.

 

I love you.

 

See you out there one day. Godspeed. I love you. Don’t be afraid I’m here.

I hope this beautiful letter moves you into action to write your own letter to someone you love and let them know how you feel!  If you would like to share your letter with others and give others inspiration, please send it to me and I’ll share your love.

Learn from my friend’s mistakes–he’s trying to!

I have a friend who has told me this story a couple of times:

He has older friends that he thinks he’ll take to lunch, or go visit, or do something fun with, but–although his intensions are good–the time to do these things just never seems to materialize.  He told me recently that it makes him sad because he lets time slip away and then, sadly, the opportunity no longer exists.  He told me that he should learn from his mistakes, but he hasn’t yet.

We have an older friend in common whom he wants to take to lunch at one of her favorite restaurants outside of town.  I’m going to do my best to ‘help him learn from his mistakes’ and set up a time that I will ALSO go with him.  Maybe we’ll break the cycle, as they say.

Make the time to take a coffee break with a friend!

Make the time to take a coffee break with a friend!
Photo courtesy of Frerieke and everystockphoto.com and Flickr.com

I am always advocating writing letters to loved ones to let them know your feelings…it’s healthy for you AND the recipient.  Maybe it’s not always a letter, maybe it’s a visit that will do the trick.

I hope you learn from my friend’s mistakes.  I’ll report back on the lunch visit!