Doug shares a letter to his dad as they make the decision to take him off life support.

This moving letter came to me recently.  It shows the love and pain that goes into the decision to take a loved one off life support.  I thought I’d share it with you:

Dad, I wanted to talk to you and tell you what’s going on. We are gonna pull the intubation tube out of you in a bit. You most likely won’t be able to breathe on your own after this.


I wanted to thank you for being a great dad and teaching me to be a man of science so that I can understand and deal with what’s been happening. You always told me you didn’t want to be hooked up to machines. So, to keep the promise I made to you in Colorado, I will not let them keep you in a vegetative state. You are probably gonna die today and I wanted to be the one that told you. I promise it wont hurt. I promise you will go painlessly. You will become stardust again. You will be pure energy and get to go see all those places you always dreamed about.


Photo by jimkster courtesy of
Photo by jimkster courtesy of

We will bump into each other again one day– random photons bouncing off each other headed to see a different part of the universe.


Don’t fight it when it happens. We will all be here guiding you to the next phase.


I’m gonna go now.  I love you; the rest of the family wants to speak with you. The nurses will start giving you medicine soon so you won’t feel anything.


I love you.


See you out there one day. Godspeed. I love you. Don’t be afraid I’m here.

I hope this beautiful letter moves you into action to write your own letter to someone you love and let them know how you feel!  If you would like to share your letter with others and give others inspiration, please send it to me and I’ll share your love.

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